Have you ever experienced a connection to certain places or people in your life that you knew deep down you had outgrown?
When you make the decision to make a life change with places or relationships it is common to miss what you once had and cling to the comfort of what you used to know.
Although, in the moment, we may feel as though relationships help us to change the way we view and feel about ourselves, the mirage of this short term fulfillment will begin to fade and the lack of internal happiness and fulfillment with oneself resurfaces.
There have been many times in my life, when I took on full responsibility for the unhappiness of others.
Or I projected my happiness on another person as their responsibility.
While simultaneously trying to find enough purpose or value in myself to stand on my own two feet.
When I experienced these times, the only option I saw was to work so hard at my relationships and my work to prove to myself and the world around me that I was valuable.
Prove to the world why I deserved to exist.
This strategy of working to “prove yourself” is exhausting, un fulfilling and has a never ending stretch of seeking the approval and needing validation from people and things outside of ourselves that we will never fully grasp.
In turn, living in a space of “proving” kept me from being able to create my own happiness.
The lesson of learning and appreciating that someone else is not responsible for creating my happiness is one that I find myself still learning and appreciating everyday.
I am also learning that I don’t have to “prove” anything to anyone.
I have learned over time that I am responsible for how I feel about myself.
I am responsible for taking action to write my own story.
I am responsible for creating my own happiness.
I am responsible for creating my own reality.
It is common to ask the question, who or what will make me happy?
When the real question is, do you believe you are worth making the effort to take responsibility and create happiness for yourself?
To Growth and Purpose,