Love the One You’re With (That’s You!!!)

Love the One You're With

Lately I’ve been talking to people about how far they’ve come with reaching a business goal or overcoming a personal challenge, and many will tell me, as they talk about who they were in that corporate job or relationship that wasn’t serving them anymore, “Oh, I hate who I was then,” or “I hated that person.”

Guess what? You’re STILL that person. And that amazing person you want to BE in the future? YUP, YOU’RE THAT PERSON RIGHT NOW, TOO.

I’ve been reflecting on this topic a lot, and in today’s episode of She Takes on the World TV, I want to talk with you about honoring where you’ve come from to get to where you are today:



To watch this week’s video, go to:

To recap, here are some important points to keep in mind:

  1. Painful experiences from the past shape who you are today. As I look back, I recall a bad relationship that made me feel off-purpose and, for several years, I contemplated the whole thing and didn’t like who I was in that relationship. Today, I find myself grateful for that experience.
  2. Be present. What’s happening right now is guiding us to unlock even more greatness for tomorrow’s adventures. (Click to tweet!)
  3. The Hero’s Journey concept is all about going through darkness and being put through challenges and initiations to expand into what you’re meant to do in the world. The point is that growth and expanding into our greatness comes from the challenges that we’re given as assignments.

My actionable for you this week is to make a list of five things you’re grateful to have learned from past mistakes. I wrote a post at Thanksgiving about being grateful for things that are not so easy to be grateful for, like red lights and missed flights. Once you have your list, I’d love for you to share it with us in the comments below.


***While we’re on this topic of personal growth and profound lessons we’ve learned, I want to let you know about a special event I’m hosting on May 1st with my friend and New York Times bestselling author Gabrielle Bernstein. You’ve been asking for more free events like my value-packed Conquer Summit and Limitless, which were totally free and produced with a full crew. The events drew thousands of people and now I’m doing it again with MIRACLES NOW. Gabrielle and I will dive deep into her new book, lead you through meditations you can use as daily tools to achieve your goals, and you’ll also be able to ask us questions live. I’m so excited for this event, and I don’t want you to miss out so register for free at:***

Please take a minute today to say a silent thank you for how all the challenging experiences and detours in your life have helped you to become who you are right now, someone who is pretty damn amazing!

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14 thoughts on “Love the One You’re With (That’s You!!!)

  1. Beautiful topic! I have recently made huge strides with my business – actively putting myself out there in situations that scare the heck out of me (teaching, radio interviews, webinars, etc.). Sometimes, I feel frustrated that it took my shy “old self” so long to do this, but mostly, I’m grateful for how hard she worked to protect me and how brave she has been as *we* (Old Self, New Self) have forged ahead on this new path.

  2. Nathalie, I absolutely LOVE THIS!! And I so needed to hear it right now!
    The last couple of years have been a time of GREAT change (move continents, hand-break turn change in careers) and it’s so easy to look back at my past and think, “poor her, other being”, or to look to my future self and think, “If only I could be like her now!”.

    Thanks for the reminder that I already AM her!

  3. Very refreshing to hear this, Natalie. Yes, we can only really make progress by starting from where we are and where we have come from.

    I used to hate that I “wasted” years as a computer programmer. But the training gave me amazing skills to understandand complex issues and present them clearly. Also, to organise plans that have every possible twist and turn covered. I’m grateful.

  4. I am such a huge believer in starting where you are and progressing in small steps and connecting all the dots along the way. Thanks for sharing your insights again this week!

  5. Natalie~ Fabulous! I really appreciated this post. I believe that all our experiences, even the darkest ones, all add up to our wholeness. As we integrate and honor who we were, who we are in the present and who we are trying to become, we can stand more fully and authentically in ourselves. I have found it powerful to recognize there has always been a path under my feet, even during past experiences that make me cringe. Each moment has a lesson and a gift in it. Our work is to see this gold in the shadow to fully see our own golden, vibrant selves.

    1. Wow, that is beautifully written, Jackie. So glad you’ve found us along your journey.

  6. Natalie, thanks for a great post, I really love your videos 🙂

    A few years ago, I was not feeling so well at work, the financial situation of the company I worked at was very bad and I felt that I needed inspiration. I knew that I have a lot to share from a research that I made about career development so I decided to start a blog that would help people (including myself) to get motivated and to get useful tips along the way. Writing my blog and helping others helped me as well.

    Maybe you are interested in reading my blog and to see if we can have some kind of a blog/topic cooperation.
    Have a great day,


    1. What a great blog, Moran! I’m so happy for you that you were able to turn your situation around and find your inspiration. If you’re interested in writing a guest post, please visit our Contact page to submit your info and our editor will get in touch with you to see if it’s a good fit. 🙂

  7. Great post Natalie! It is so important for us to understand just how much past experiences make us grateful for what we have today. Whether it is a bad relationship or boss (I’m sure we’ve all had both) it helps us to realize when we have something great in the future!

    Such an inspiration to remind us of what really matters!

  8. We go through so many major changes in life that it is easy to discount past experiences as irrelevant. I love that you included the Hero’s Journey. Through the whole thing, you are always the same person, and your actions at the beginning affect who you are when you come out the other side. I’ve definitely learned from many past relationships, education decisions, and career moves. Every decision and change in life leads somewhere new. So encouraging!

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