Feel Like You’ll Never Be as Good as THAT Person?

Natalie MacNeil on North Star Syndrome

Today I want to talk to you about a topic I’m really passionate about, something I like to call the North Star Syndrome.

The North Star Syndrome happens when you fixate on someone else’s success to the point you think they shine the “brightest,” just like the North Star. (But guess what? The North Star ISN’T the brightest star in the sky, not even close!) And that other person you’re constantly trying to measure up to? Their “star” doesn’t shine any brighter than yours!

People will ask me in interviews if I want to be “the next” so and so, and the answer is always NO, I don’t want to be the next so and so! The only “next” I wanna be is the next best version of ME. (Click to tweet!)

Join me for this week’s episode of She Takes on the World TV and I’ll explain why all this North Star business is sooo highly overrated and what you can do to make your own star shine the brightest! (Including a special meditation designed to help you release your attachment to focusing on someone else’s success.) Check out the video below:



To watch today’s episode of She Takes on the World TV, click here: http://youtu.be/9lSagUILMXw

Here are instructions for the cord-cutting meditation I describe in my video:

(By the way, this is great for not only releasing your fixation on that North Star person you always compare yourself to, but also for anyone else in your life you feel you need to energetically release.)

  1. Set aside 10-15 minutes when you won’t be interrupted.
  2. Get calm and comfortable, in whatever way works best for you. I like to have some tea, light a candle and incense, and sit in a meditation space I have in my home.
  3. Close your eyes and think about the person you want to detach from. Really focus on them until you have a very clear image of them in your mind.
  4. Visualize your attachment to that person being a cord of light, running from you to them.
  5. When you’re ready, simply visualize cutting that cord or letting it dissolve or even explode – whatever comes to you in the moment that allows you to see that the cord is severed.
  6. Thank that person for the lessons they have taught you and then tell them it’s time for you to let go of your attachment to them.
  7. Take a few deep, cleansing breaths, and when you’re ready, open your eyes and come back to the room…

My actionable for you this week is to release that person you’ve been fixating on as your North Star and, in doing so, you’re freeing yourself to be more of you. Then let me know in a comment below how the meditation helped you!


***Don’t follow the North Star! Pave your OWN path and go in the direction that feels like the right path for you! Remember, you matter, your work matters, and your unique purpose and path matter!***

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11 thoughts on “Feel Like You’ll Never Be as Good as THAT Person?

  1. Goodness! So needed that today! Very relevant to a situation at work! Good reminder to refocus on my own work and own path! XO B

  2. Hah! I just finished meditating and the word “star” came into focus (in the context of my own sacred, magical Polaris story) AND in my meditation I thought of a very special “someone” that I thanked, blessed and let go.

    Opened your email and wala 🙂 … of course, I smiled and gave a nod to the cosmos … thank you for being part of my synchros today — so fun!! :))

    Love from Hawaii,
    Win :))

    1. Boom! Love when that synchronicity happens 🙂 Thank you so much for your comment, and I hope to visit Hawaii on a future She Takes on the World Tour!

      1. I may be a great connection for that Ms. Natalie. I have use of a lux, spa-ish pavilion (great for an intimate group) in a great location (2 blocks from Ala Moana center and beach — a massive Whole Foods set to be built across the street … this organic gal is so sooo excited!!)
        I say let’s make it happen. Keep me in your radar… if for nothing else but my list of phenom services :))


  3. This is cosmic, Natalie. I’m wondering now… will your new TV studio be called, “She Takes On The Universe.”

    A major reason why Cirius appears as the brightest star is because, after our Sun, it is the closest star visible to the naked eye. So, when we feel that North Star Syndrome, it could be taken as a positive sign that we are getting closer to super stardom ourselves.

    Anotnother thing very apparent from gazing at the night sky is that there is plenty of space for more stars 🙂

  4. There is absolutely so much room in the sky for more stars! She Takes on the Universe… hmmmm… I feel a new brand coming on here 😉

  5. She takes on the Universe? love it! 🙂
    I definitely suffer from comparisonitis but these days, I’m training myself to stop lurking on other people websites and just create my ‘thang.’ Hang out in my corner of the web and put all my love+energy on what I want to create. I trust that if I focus on my purpose and calling, then it will naturally be unique.

    PLUS, even flowers take time to blossom. Everything in due time. 🙂 Thanks, Natalie!

  6. Ah, yes, comparisons. It’s easy to fall into the trap of wishing you were like someone else, but one way to get past it is to remember that everyone has her own challenges. Even if someone looks to be highly successful in one area, she may be struggling in a different area or have struggled in the area where she is now successful.

    Someone who may have a highly successful business may have a personal relationship that pains her. Or someone who is highly successful now may have had a lot of learning lessons (what others perceive as failures) to get to that point.

    So if you envy the person you have been seeing as your North Star, understanding that this person has had her own journey with its own challenges, disappointments, and frustrations can help you realize you probably don’t want that person’s journey, life, or business. This does not take away from the other person’s success; rather, it is a way to change your perspective so you can focus on being the best you that you can be because you are living your own unique story.

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