Confidence In The Presence Of Greatness

Natalie MacNeil talks about confidence

Today I’m bringing you the second installment in a very special, three-part series on self confidence, sponsored by Invisalign® clear aligners, and if you want to learn how to gain confidence and self-esteem when meeting totally amazing, mind-blowingly impressive people, this video is for you.


So, like everyone, I’ve had plenty of run-ins with people who’ve made me go all starry eyed and leave me tongue-tied. One time, I found myself sitting next to the legendary Iman at an event and I felt so so intimidated! I mean, with heels on she was like 7 feet tall, with the most incredible, flawless complexion that looked like she was being airbrushed. It could’ve been so easy for me to feel incredibly insecure around her and not act like myself. BUT I’ve learned a few secrets along the way on how to gain confidence even when sitting beside a mega-star.

Join me for the video below, and I’ll share my tips for having soaring self confidence, even in the presence of greatness:



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To recap,here are a few things I’ve learned about meeting people I really admire:

  1. When you admire someone, you’re really just seeing the spark in them that’s inside you, too. What do I mean? We admire people who are similar to us, who are more experienced, a more successful version of who we are. If you’re a woman who writes funny, first-person essays, you probably love Tina Fey, Cheryl Strayed, and Sloane Crosley. If you’re a yoga teacher you probably love Tara Stiles. Remember, you probably have the same abilities of those you admire most — it’s just a matter of tapping into them.
  2. Know that you’re exactly where you need to be, on your own path. When you’re around someone you admire, it’s common to have feelings of, “I’m not good enough,” or, “I wish I were shining that brightly.” (I call it North Star Syndrome.) It’s what happens when we get fixated on the success of someone else and believe that only that person can be our guiding light, and that their path and their methods must be the only way. But the North Star isn’t even the brightest star in the sky! It’s important to remember you are exactly where you need to be, and that path matters just as much as anyone else’s. Have faith that your path and your methods will get you exactly where you need to go.
  3. Don’t be someone you’re not just to impress people. Pretending to be fluent in Klingon to impress an avid Trekkie (who happens to be an industry leader in your field) or doing a juice cleanse just because you’re going to meet your idol and want to be able to mention it to her is just nonsense and you’ll do a huge disservice to yourself that way. People everywhere no matter how impressive respond to authenticity. So be who you are, and you’re that much more likely to connect and feel confident. (Click to tweet!)

Confidence is one of the keys to feeling good at any conference or networking event. And for me, part of feeling good is also looking good. Which is why I use Invisalign aligners to achieve a smile I feel really good about, which helps me more confidently approach people, whether it’s the new barista or my business idol at a luncheon.

That leads me to today’s challenge. I would like you to think about three people that you admire and the spark that you share. In the comments below, tell me who that person is, what you share with them, and what you would say to them if you met them in person. Better yet, tweet them this week and let them know yourself.

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9 thoughts on “Confidence In The Presence Of Greatness

  1. Seven great points, Natalie. Here’s my one line summary, which also serves as my ritual:

    “When shit happens, wipe your ass and move on.”

    Of course, the ritual is best done in your imagination. 🙂

    1. The above comment applies to next week’s video … I took a wrong turning while I was time-travelling. 🙂

      This week’s video contains great advice for anyone who will one day meet Natalie MacNeil in person.


  2. Your post today is right on point. Being around others who are great should encourage us as individuals to shine brighter.Thank you Ma’am for this point of clarity. Now for your daily challenge;)…1. Melody Hobson- she is unapologetically herself, a woman who has overcome all obstacles and socially prescribed boundaries and is a financial services money honey guru ( I too am in financial services and have had my share of challenges )2. Arianna Huffington- she is well traveled, fearless to ask the questions and present another point of view or idea to consider and she turned her passion for writing into a blogista empire ( I contribute to an online women’s business magazine and tell myself I am brave everyday) 3. Priscilla Shirer – She is bold and passionate about her faith and sharing it, true beauty inside and out, devotes her life work to ministry ( My passion is growing daily in my faith and I enjoy working with our youth ministry. . I however desire to do much more) Thanks for this little brain work. Very helpful this morning. Have a bodacious weekend!

  3. Natalie- great analogy about the North Star being a guiding star but not the brightest star in the sky. Thanks for reminding us to be our genuine selves. Funny how what we like in our hero is actually a reflection of ourselves. Fortunately for me, my heroes are thoughtful and generous. Hopefully I’ll get to pay it forward some day.

    ps I like the set change- nice upgrade– looks like a TV set.

  4. I admire food babe, gluten free school , sarah wilson and kris carr.. I am a coach for someone who finds out they are gluten intolerant or food allergies. I guide them through roadblocks ranging from learning about hidden sources of gluten to dealing with interpersonal , emotional or social struggles. They go from surviving with food sensitivities to thriving with health and vibrance.

  5. Well, this was a different perspective for me. I can’t think of someone that I would want to be in the same room with because of his or her ‘greatness.’ I’m somewhat uncomfortable when in a room with people who are hereditary chiefs or wise Elders or people who have wise words to share.

  6. Thanks for this post! I’m often in this situation and tend to let myself feel shy or intimidated – very silly! I’m changing my mindset from now on. I have a job interview in a week with someone I have admired for years (from a business perspective) and you’ve reminded me to prepare and to not be afraid to let who I am shine 🙂

  7. Two years later and this thoughtful message still applies! My idol (who probably would rather stand on cute,fluffy chair than a pedestal) is Natalie MacNiel! I love how you genuinely care for all people, are extremely creative, and motivated. You inspire me to be confident in where I am right now and take on the world one step at a time. Thank you for the heaps of inspiration and successful advice!

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