Today I’m bringing you the second installment in a very special, three-part series on self confidence, sponsored by Invisalign® clear aligners, and if you want to learn how to gain confidence and self-esteem when meeting totally amazing, mind-blowingly impressive people, this video is for you.
So, like everyone, I’ve had plenty of run-ins with people who’ve made me go all starry eyed and leave me tongue-tied. One time, I found myself sitting next to the legendary Iman at an event and I felt so so intimidated! I mean, with heels on she was like 7 feet tall, with the most incredible, flawless complexion that looked like she was being airbrushed. It could’ve been so easy for me to feel incredibly insecure around her and not act like myself. BUT I’ve learned a few secrets along the way on how to gain confidence even when sitting beside a mega-star.
Join me for the video below, and I’ll share my tips for having soaring self confidence, even in the presence of greatness:
Click here to watch today’s episode: http://youtu.be/ZvmSfMaakT4
To recap,here are a few things I’ve learned about meeting people I really admire:
- When you admire someone, you’re really just seeing the spark in them that’s inside you, too. What do I mean? We admire people who are similar to us, who are more experienced, a more successful version of who we are. If you’re a woman who writes funny, first-person essays, you probably love Tina Fey, Cheryl Strayed, and Sloane Crosley. If you’re a yoga teacher you probably love Tara Stiles. Remember, you probably have the same abilities of those you admire most — it’s just a matter of tapping into them.
- Know that you’re exactly where you need to be, on your own path. When you’re around someone you admire, it’s common to have feelings of, “I’m not good enough,” or, “I wish I were shining that brightly.” (I call it North Star Syndrome.) It’s what happens when we get fixated on the success of someone else and believe that only that person can be our guiding light, and that their path and their methods must be the only way. But the North Star isn’t even the brightest star in the sky! It’s important to remember you are exactly where you need to be, and that path matters just as much as anyone else’s. Have faith that your path and your methods will get you exactly where you need to go.
- Don’t be someone you’re not just to impress people. Pretending to be fluent in Klingon to impress an avid Trekkie (who happens to be an industry leader in your field) or doing a juice cleanse just because you’re going to meet your idol and want to be able to mention it to her is just nonsense and you’ll do a huge disservice to yourself that way. People everywhere no matter how impressive respond to authenticity. So be who you are, and you’re that much more likely to connect and feel confident. (Click to tweet!)
Confidence is one of the keys to feeling good at any conference or networking event. And for me, part of feeling good is also looking good. Which is why I use Invisalign aligners to achieve a smile I feel really good about, which helps me more confidently approach people, whether it’s the new barista or my business idol at a luncheon.
That leads me to today’s challenge. I would like you to think about three people that you admire and the spark that you share. In the comments below, tell me who that person is, what you share with them, and what you would say to them if you met them in person. Better yet, tweet them this week and let them know yourself.